We’ve all been there – watching someone we care about begin to change in ways that worry us. Maybe your usually outgoing sister has stopped coming to family gatherings, your colleague’s typically immaculate work has become scattered and unclear, or your best friend’s once-cheerful messages have turned short and distant. That gnawing feeling that something isn’t quite right can leave us feeling helpless, scared, and unsure of how to reach out.
Supporting someone through mental health challenges isn’t always straightforward, but it’s one of the most important things we can do for those we care about. While you can’t force someone to open up or seek help, understanding the signs of mental health struggles and knowing how to approach the subject with compassion can make all the difference.
Recognizing the Signs of Mental Health Struggles
Mental health difficulties can manifest in various ways, and changes in a person’s behavior or demeanor are often the first indicators that something might be wrong. Some common signs to watch for include:
- Noticeable changes in sleeping patterns, either sleeping much more or having difficulty sleeping
- Withdrawal from social activities and relationships they previously enjoyed
- Changes in appetite or eating habits leading to significant weight loss or gain
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Expressing feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness
- Increased irritability or mood swings
- Neglecting personal hygiene or appearance
- Loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities
- Changes in work or academic performance
- Increased use of alcohol or other substances
Remember that these signs may appear gradually and might not be immediately obvious. It’s important to note that experiencing one or two of these symptoms doesn’t necessarily indicate a mental health problem, but persistent changes that impact daily life should be taken seriously.
Approaching the Subject with Them
Starting a conversation about mental health can feel challenging, but approaching the subject with care and sensitivity can make a significant difference. Choosing the correct care for you can help get over many inghibitions associated with seeking help. Here are some effective strategies you can utilize.
Choose the Right Time and Place
- Find a quiet, private setting where you won’t be interrupted
- Choose a moment when you both have time to talk without rushing
- Avoid bringing up concerns during heated moments or arguments
Use Supportive Language
- Start with “I” statements: “I’ve noticed…” or “I’m concerned…”
- Be specific about the changes you’ve observed
- Avoid judgmental language or ultimatums
- Listen more than you speak
What to Say and Do
- Express genuine concern: “I care about you, and I’ve noticed you seem different lately”
- Ask open-ended questions: “How are you feeling?” rather than “Are you ok?”
- Validate their feelings: “That sounds really difficult”
- Be patient and allow silence in the conversation
- Thank them for sharing (if they do open up)
What to Avoid
- Don’t minimize their feelings with phrases like “just cheer up” or “it could be worse”
- Avoid comparing their struggles to others
- Don’t pressure them to talk if they’re not ready
- Never promise to keep suicidal thoughts a secret
Offering Practical Support
While emotional support is crucial, practical assistance can make a real difference in helping someone access the help they need. Seek the advice of an expert, such as someone with a Graduate Certificate in Mental Health, who might be able to help you know where to start.
Here are some concrete ways to help:
Help Them Access Professional Support
- Offer to help research mental health professionals or services
- Assist with making appointments if they’re feeling overwhelmed
- Offer to accompany them to their first appointment
- Help them prepare questions or concerns to discuss with healthcare providers
Provide Practical Assistance
- Help with daily tasks when they’re struggling
- Offer to drive them to appointments
- Assist with organizing medications if needed
- Help them establish and maintain routine
Support Their Recovery Journey
- Learn about their condition and treatment plan
- Help them track symptoms or triggers
- Encourage healthy lifestyle choices
- Be patient with their progress
- Celebrate small victories
Emergency Support
- Save crisis helpline numbers on your phone
- Know the warning signs of a crisis
- Have a plan in place for emergency situations
- Don’t hesitate to contact emergency services if you’re concerned about immediate safety
Remember that supporting someone with mental health challenges can be emotionally demanding and sometimes draining. While helping others, it’s all the more important to maintain your own well-being and seek support when needed. There is no shame in putting yourself first and caring for your well-being. You can also consider joining a support group for carers or speaking with a mental health professional yourself.
By identifying signs early, approaching with compassion, and offering practical support, you can play a vital role in helping someone navigate their mental health journey. Remember that recovery is possible, and professional help can make a significant difference in someone’s life.
